Sunday, July 10, 2011

Tears: A Wedding and a Funeral

Tears, part one
My cousin got married. She is 27 and absolutely beautiful. She stands 6'1", is tanned, and has blonde hair. Her size 6 wedding dress was a secret to everyone but her mom and sister.

Her groom is an outdoorsman, quiet and not given to showing much emotion in public.

As he stood at the altar, ruggedly handsome in his tux, he was mentally willing all the bridesmaids to hustle down so he could see his bride.

Finally, the music signaled her entrance and all stood. The doors swept open and every eye looked back catch a glimpse. She was a picture of radiant loveliness on the arm of her dad. Her groom strained for a moment to focus, and then he melted. Tears streamed down his face as she walked that regal, slow bride's walk to him.

This muscled he-man was unashamed as he wiped away tears repeatedly when she neared him. It didn't take a lip reader to decode what he whispered to her as she took his arm.

"You are so beautiful. I love you."

I certainly wasn't the only one in the church dabbing my eyes.

Tears, part two
Yesterday we attended the funeral of a young man who died much too soon in a tragic, freakish accident. He had been on life support for two weeks and would have been a quadriplegic had he lived. He and his wife did not yet have children.

He was a fireman and all around us agreed he wouldn't have wanted to live a life hooked to a ventilator and confined to a wheelchair.

His sweet mother had been stoic throughout his hospital stay, bringing words of comfort and faith to others who had come to bring the same to her. Her husband had passed away at a young age and now her son was gone, too.

The family gathered at the back of the church, waiting to follow the casket in. His wife and mother were amazingly composed until they neared each other. They clasped arms and squeezed together. The sobs that broke forth from them both were utterly heart-rending and filled the church.

Once again, I was not the only one in the church dabbing at my eyes.

I believe tears are cathartic and cleansing. They are our companions in joy and tragedy. I've never been much of a crier, but as I get older, I seem to be moved to tears more often. I just need to remember to get some waterproof mascara and keep a supply of Kleenex in my purse.


  1. Congratulation to the lovely couple starting their wonderful life together and prayers going out to the family of the young man that left way too soon. Maybe sometime you could post a picture of the happy couple. That would be awesome.

  2. Tears of joy, tears of sadness. We do need to shed them. God has given them for a reason. Beautiful post.

  3. Odie: Thank you. And, I've emailed my cousin to ask for better pics than the low light ones I have of the dance afterwards. Will post as soon as I get them!

    Belle: Amen!

  4. 1. Congratulations on the swimsuit. :-)

    2. Tears are a wonderful thing and oddly cleansing. My heart is with both examples. You did a lovely job here...


  5. this is a wonderful post, shelly. i can feel your emotions just reading it.

    how exciting for the new family that's just begun. what a bright and exciting future they have!

    my heart aches for the family of the young man who passed away. it's so heart breaking to lose someone - old or young.

    (i have NO idea why it won't let me log in as myself - you commented on my blog today about the loss of my friend to suicide - thank you for your sweet thoughts, btw!)

  6. Anon: Thank you! It is such a swing of emotions, but tears are the one constant. So very tragic about your friend- I really do have you all in my prayers.


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